God Will Provide

As envy and insecurity creep in my heart, help me see what I have Lord vs. what I don’t. Help me see You in all these and find Your grace amidst difficulties.

Help me live my life in faith that is seen and be a walking reminder if Your grace which fills and embraces our entirety even if we may not always realize it.

Help me Lord move away from envy to enlightenment. From discontent to gratitude and from depression to joy, knowing we are in You and You with us.

Amen.

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Hard Stop.

Work will never stop. It will always be busy, will consume you if you let it.

Tasks will never end, and in the corporate world, performance is key.

If you do not perform, you will get left behind.

Such is the quandary of preventing burnout in the workplace.

It is a rat race if you allow it to be.

A never-ending, euphoric kind of race where the more you work, the more you get recognized, the more it boosts your ego, the more you want your ego to be boosted, the more you work again, and again, and again.

Then you realize years have passed and you worked more, you were promoted fastee because you worked more, and you spent less time with your kid/s.

Ironic, isn’t it?

Or should it be?

One thing I am learning the hard way now is how to slow down.

Hard stop.

My workaholic, recognition-craver self compels me to do things, to do more, to do it fast.

The faster, the better. The more, the better.

Get up that ladder fast.

Is it really worth it, I ask?

Is it?

Yes and no. Yes because you get recognized, commended, promoted. Your pay increases and you get more responsibility, your stretched to your potential, slowly and steadily.

No because it may mean more time away from family.

But should it really be more time away? Or is it a social construct we are made to believe in that the longer hours you work, the more work you put in.

I want to be promoted, who doesn’t?

Everyone wants to increase the value of their time away from family the sooner, the better.

I want that increase, the prestige, the spotlight.

Do I really need it? No necessarily.

Is it in my control? How I work, yes. But my capability is a gift. My talent is a gift. Corporate breaks are a gift.

From whom? From God.

And He always gets left out.

We get consumed with this corporate masquerade that everything is because of us.

That awesome presentation. Those stunning numbers on the powerpoint. Praise, pat on thr backs. These are never ours. These are given.

The sooner we realize that everything is His will, the sooner we can take a break. Breathe. Allows things to be. Just work hard, but also work smart.

Knowing, believing, that we can also work hard and do our best, and leave Him the rest.

His plan. His timing. His goals for our lives. His plan, never ours.

So we stop getting frustrated over that missed opportunity, that promotion that never came, the company car you wanted so much to have, that corner office with a window.

If it doesn’t come, its not because we are not good enough, but its because that is not His plan for us – and there is something way better than we can conjure in our minds.

Hard stop. Let go of the little things. Focus on service, how your gifts can help people, serve them and meet their needs, not your goals, not your plans – but theirs.

So you realize that something bigger is planned. Something better. Something more extraordinary.

Some Godly – never in human terms.

And I pray, deeply, passionately, that I remember this when I feel like doing more and missing out on family.

That in end, God and our faith is most important. And it will always, always be enough.

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Intuitiveness

So I was contemplating about Milo’s therapists for OT and ST recently and realized how each had their strengths.

Both competent, young, energetic, personable and has potential.

One key difference that my husband and I noticed though is intuitiveness.

Intuitive? You may ask.

Yes – intuitiveness in handling our son. And that was the key difference why we prefer one ober the other.

Equally competent, but one stands out. Why? Because this therapist goes beyond textbook interventions and manages our son more intuitively. She is unafraid of experimenting different approaches and moves beyond her functional expertise to “try” another style, which may not necessarily be her functional expertise.

Why? Because she has an end in mind, and is not bogged down with her “functional” background, ably using sound and practical interventions that she feels does work, even if it goes outside her therapy styles.

It does work and she exhibits patience when doing it – why? Because she is clear on the end goal. And we appreciate how she ‘flexes’ her style to meet that goal. Even if it is uncomfortable to her – the “why” is clear, that’s why it works.

So I apply this in my own profession as an HR practitioner. HR tenets and practices serve their purpose in providing the backbone of understanding what is allowed. Often though, in real life, ‘flexing’ is required and your agility to manage this real-time, on the ground, anchoring your decisions on the “why”, with the end in mind fully clear, the process of how you achieved the end in mind becomes less and less significant. Why? Because employees do ot carr about an HR process.

What they care about is how it serves their purpose – maximizing their workplace experience, doing meaningful work in an environment that accepts their uniqueness and harnesses their potential – through respectful leaders and a positive work environment.

And if we meet these – then I would have done my job, regardless what process I followed. As long as the end in mind is clear – and people is at the center of your work, then one can never go wrong.

And in the end, I hope to be an intuitive people centered HR professional that sees things clearly and agile enough to achieve the “ask” in the simplest, most impactful way possible.

And this is an AHA. A dream. That we can all harness the intuition innate in all of us to achieve our purpose, all for God’s glory.

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At the Heart of Service

“If anyone wishes to be first, he shall be the last of all, and the servant of all…”

The one who does not think of oneself as the best or having authority that exacts obedience and tribute, but the one who serves without discrimination.

Greatness in the world is measured by power, money and prestige… a sense of entitlement.

Rather, one asks for opportunities to serve every person, especially the insignificant.

Amen.

To Be Exactly You

We live in a world which necessitates the projection of a self that is not necessarily us.

We feel it everywhere. At work. At home (when visitors are around). In public places where social etiquette is expected (albeit lacking), we project a more formal and respectful version of ourselves.

There is an effing kind of discipline expected of us – for if we choose to be exactly who we are at the exact moment we want to be, it results into something negative, disastrous even.

An example is when we are waiting in a queue, when someone cuts it, my innermost self would want to scream at the person like there’s no tomorrow.

But you can’t do that.

You have to breathe in and blow – then assertively inform the ignorant other that a he or she has to fall in line at the very end.

Another would be when I am talking to someone with half a brain, my urge is to say – “That is the stupidest thing anyone has ever said to me.”

But you can’t do that.

You have to “tweak” your words and say – “I respectfully disagree, may I offer another suggestion?”

It’s quite pretentious, really.

All of it.

Then I realize, temperance and self-discipline requires massive effort.

It is because in tempering ourselves do we place others first – what they would feel, not what we would want.

For it is in “sacrificing” our otherwise open, callous, primitive and “fighting” inner self do we realize that we are fundamentally hurtful and that to be fundamentally good requires God’s grace and a great deal of human effort.

As we learn to live our lives directed towards the betterment of others do we realize that we were never made to live for ourselves.

We were created to enrich others, give them light and life amidst the prevalent hardships and despair we all face.

For people well-loved equals a life well lived.

A life knowing that our JOY comes not from what gratifies us directly, but what gratifies others and gives them joy, and this joy is what gratifies us completely.

And I hope that in our need to be exactly who we are on a day to day, would mean slowly transforming into who we need to be for others.

Someone who does not need to pretend to be kind or respectful or humble or generous anymore – but someone who naturally is.

Why, you may ask?

So that…

“God’s joy may be in us, and that our joy may be complete”.

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